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Life is like an old pair of shoes

I have a very hard time giving up old shoes - the shoes that fit properly, the shoes I can actually walk in, without throbbing pain as an after effect.?? I have bunions and the widest part of my foot is 4 1/2 inches across.
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I have a very hard time giving up old shoes - the shoes that fit properly, the shoes I can actually walk in, without throbbing pain as an after effect.??

I have bunions and the widest part of my foot is 4 1/2 inches across. To find shoes I can wear without being in pain is a challenge. So when I find them, I wear them well beyond the point of where they should be worn in public.??

When I face the dilemma of having to look for new shoes, tossing out the old and bringing in the new, I see a parallel to the well worn ruts I enjoy living in. I love my comfortable routines, the known, the expected. I realize I must force myself out of those ruts and make new ones from time to time. But it's hard. It's like getting those new shoes.??

A smart person would realize new ruts and new shoes really shouldn't hurt. It may take a while to get used to the change, but it should not cause great discomfort along the way.??

So why then, when it came to some relationships, did I seem to go for the uncomfortable fit and hope they would eventually become comfortable???

This is something I am slowly realizing. Some of the most important relationships in my life weren't a perfect fit. They weren't even close. Right from the beginning, I was uncomfortable. I thought I would get used to the fit. I thought they could be broken in. Perhaps, like a pair of shoes. But no matter what, no matter how long, I was never completely at ease. I may have adapted and gotten used to them. But they weren't good for me. And if I am honest with myself, I knew it from the start.??

My good friends have been a perfect fit, right from the beginning. No discomfort, no pain. The friendships that have lasted throughout the years, the miles, life's transitions, the good, the bad and the ugly have been comfortable right from the get go.??

I'm learning.??

I think I need to learn how to shop more wisely, for shoes and for relationships. I think a little "trial run" with both feet planted firmly on the ground would be a good motto in both regards.??

Just because I have bunions doesn't mean I should be in pain. Just because I am older doesn't mean I should settle.??

Pain and discomfort are your body's signals to warn you. Why does a person think they should ignore that???

I need to spend a little more time shopping for the perfect fit.