Locking Hearts Together

Josh Lockhart, MC, CCC, PHEc,

Josh Lockhart, MC, CCC, PHEc, Locking Hearts Together

Josh is a husband, father and counsellor. He focuses on helping people lock their hearts together, whether this is parent-child, spousal, sibling or community relationships. A very important skill to have while being married and raising his own kids. and the society's national secretary. He was given the RASC Service Award at the 2012 general assembly in Edmonton.

  • Screen-free activity ideas

    Summer break is now in full swing, and the struggle has become real for parents, as they balance screen time and outside time with their children. Unfortunately, or fortunately, Pokemon Go has . . .

    Joshua LockhartJuly 14, 2016

  • How to make and keep resolutions: goal making and change model

    How to make and keep resolutions: goal making and change model Since we are nearly a month into 2016, it is a common occurrence this time of year to make new year resolutions. You know, the goals. . .

    Joshua LockhartJanuary 19, 2016

  • Parenting an anxious child

    My daughter hates having a loose tooth. Her anxiety increases every time she has one. She will not let my wife or I pull her tooth out. She truly hates the feeling. This is because the first time a. . .

    Joshua LockhartNovember 5, 2015

  • What is self-esteem?

    Frequently we hear people say that they have low self-esteem or low self-value or worth. These can mean many different things to different people. This is the lens that I view self-esteem from, . . .

    Joshua LockhartSeptember 22, 2015

  • How counselling works: finding a natural, skilled helper

    I am frequently asked by clients either before or during counselling, “How does counselling work?” I respond with the 40-30-15 rule created by Scott Miller. But before we get to that, it is . . .

    Joshua LockhartAugust 8, 2015

  • The impact of stress

    A couple of years ago when my wife was picking me up from a meeting, I broke my foot just by pivoting on a flat surface. It’s actually quite embarrassing. However, at this point in my life I was . . .

    Joshua LockhartJuly 12, 2015

  • The importance of home economics in 2015

    March 21 is designated as World Home Economics Day by the International Federation of Home Economics. You may have seen home economics related hashtags on social media as the day was celebrated . . .

    Joshua LockhartMarch 27, 2015

  • Sports psychology and sports trauma

    Shortly after my 17th birthday, I participated in a friendly, yet competitive, basketball tournament. I was going up for an offensive rebound and when I landed on the ground I felt a sharp pain in . . .

    Joshua LockhartFebruary 25, 2015

  • Take a calm, preventative approach to bedwetting

    Before I get too far into this subject, I need to apologize to my son, who I am sure at some point in his life will see this and be embarrassed that I am sharing this experience with the public. . . .

    Joshua LockhartJanuary 23, 2015

  • Trust your inner voice

    During the holiday break my wife dragged me back to Winnipeg, Man. to visit her family. On our trip we passed Elie, a small town outside Winnipeg on the Trans-Canada. In 2007 the town was rocked by. . .

    Joshua LockhartJanuary 6, 2015

  • Helping someone with depression

    Helping someone going through a depressive episode is difficult as a friend, spouse, parent, sibling or caregiver. As with any other mental health concern, there are varying degrees, types, and depth to a depressive episode. So prior to trying to

    By Joshua LockhartNovember 25, 2014

  • Rescuing children should be as heart warming as rescuing animals

    This is a topic that I have long pondered about, but have been afraid to write because of my fears of others' reactions. This is a delicate topic. Why are we so quick to act, react, rescue, and even save a dog from an abusive environment, but not a child?

    By Joshua LockhartSeptember 4, 2014

  • Preparing for the back to school routine

    Your Twitter and Facebook feed may soon be cluttered with memes about Christmas being under 20 weeks away. Which for me means it is time to start doing my Christmas shopping, in about 19 weeks. However, with the red and green season already being

    By Joshua LockhartAugust 14, 2014

  • Is the secret really such a secret?

    The Secret is a book and a movie released in 2006 that focuses on the principles and laws of attraction. In simplest terms this means that matter is attracted to like matter. The main message in the book and movie is that the energy, messages and

    By Joshua LockhartJune 18, 2014

  • Managing anxiety to keep the world open

    Recently I went to the pool with my three-year-old son. He wanted to be brave and jump off the diving board. My wife guided him along the side until the diving board went past the edge of the pool. He then slowly tip-toed out to the edge of the diving

    By Joshua LockhartJune 3, 2014

  • Should technology be used as a babysitter?

    Last time I indicated that electronics, particularly video games, smartphones, and TV watching, can be beneficial when used to engage, interact, connect and build relationships. Such as family movie nights, FaceTime or Skype, and playing video games

    By Joshua LockhartApril 21, 2014

  • Parents fear around technology

    I have been noticing that there is a lot of fear around raising children and teenagers in the technology age. Whether it is because of the shame the mommy wars creates, i.e. who let's their child watch TV less; or all of the shame that comes from

    By Joshua LockhartApril 9, 2014

  • Keeping parenting simple

    As a parent, and as a person who helps other parents, I sometimes get sucked into the latest parenting trends, or the hottest parenting tips. I want to somehow use someone else's parenting success that they had with their children on my own. Forgetting

    By Joshua LockhartFebruary 25, 2014

  • Changing red thoughts to green with yellow

    I recently broke down a client's metaphorical concern, and probably one that we all have. That is that we are in a hole, and the dirt is piling up on us, and that there is no way out. So, we grabbed a pen and paper and started drawing this. We drew a

    By Joshua LockhartJanuary 31, 2014

  • Give the gift of time

    The holiday season is truly upon us. Some people have completed their Christmas shopping, while the rest of us are envious of them. Especially as we spend our precious resource of time waiting in lines buying that "perfect" gift. And it is hard not to

    By Joshua LockhartDecember 19, 2013

  • Shifting to look at 'what is right' instead of 'what is wrong'

    Sometimes when we think of counselling or therapy, we think of Sigmund Freud, one of the founders of psychotherapy. One of Freud's original beliefs is that something is wrong with a person when they come to therapy, and they need to figure out what is

    By Joshua LockhartNovember 24, 2013

  • Creating a bond as a stepparent

    Being a stepparent is hard. Children are conditioned from a young age that step-parents are cruel and mean. Thanks, Disney. So when you become one, the odds are already stacked against you. And add to it that there has been no bond or attachment made

    By Joshua LockhartOctober 29, 2013

  • Bullying, providing support for your child

    Bullying isn't something new, it has always been around. Instead of nasty texts when I was in school, it was notes passed around in class. However, what makes bullying in the 21st century so different is that those notes wouldn't follow me home, or I

    By Joshua LockhartOctober 1, 2013

  • What does your reaction to the VMA's say about you?

    Now that it has been sometime since Miley Cyrus and Robin Thicke took to the stage at the Video Music Awards, the dust seems to have settled. During the event, 10.1 million watched on TV and then took to social media, generating over 18 million tweets,

    By Joshua LockhartSeptember 15, 2013

  • Is there such thing as a 'normal' family?

    I have been frequently told that the population I work with is only a portion of the actual world, and that the families I see are of the 10 per cent that are experiencing mental health concerns, typically in their children, and that not all families are

    By Joshua LockhartSeptember 10, 2013

  • When does anxiety become problematic in a child's life

    Anxiety has been the number one issue for clients I have been seeing. What has been interesting, however, is that the anxiety being reported, which they are truly experiencing, is normal experiences by the body and not abnormal or clinical. Anxiety is

    By Joshua LockhartAugust 21, 2013

  • Ways to start living in the moment

    Have you noticed many movies, games and TV shows have a Zombie theme to them? From the TV show The Walking Dead to the new movie World War Z to the never ending Zombie attacks that happen in Call of Duty or Trenches or Resident Evil. A professor from

    By Joshua LockhartJune 12, 2013

  • Square box, many shaped personalities

    I think if we could let our children and youth frolic in the fields throughout their upbringing, we would see child and youth mental health issues decrease. I have been noticing an interesting trend amongst the children and youth I am working with.

    By Joshua LockhartApril 3, 2013

  • Let your child have a voice that can be heard

    I have now seen on one too many occasions, parents who are trying to live vicariously through their children. Here are just a couple of examples. Parents who sign up their teen in a hockey school so that they can receive the best hockey coaching in the

    By Joshua LockhartMarch 27, 2013

  • Perceptions and relationship satisfaction

    Mark Young, a counselling professor at Gonzaga University, did research around what makes couples "healthy" and "happy." He found there were key themes in the healthy couples he interviewed. These themes were security, perceptions, expectations and

    By Joshua LockhartMarch 27, 2013

  • Teaching values over value

    It's been sometime after Hurricane Sandy. This hurricane did an estimated $50 billion worth of damage to the United States, making it the second costliest hurricane in the history of the United States. However, it was not deadliest. It is unfortunate

    By Joshua LockhartMarch 20, 2013

  • The shaming behind excessive TV use

    Did you see the headlines Feb. 18? That TV and antisocial behaviour are linked? There was avid attention garnered by this recent study released from New Zealand that was published in Pediatrics. This study linked "excessive" television watching to

    By Joshua LockhartMarch 1, 2013

  • Create safety and security at home while travelling

    One observation I am having when working with parents is that children who come from a two parent house seem to go to bed better when both parents are home and engaged in the bedtime routine. There is a sense of safety and security for children that when

    By Joshua LockhartFebruary 1, 2013

  • Take time to be with your family

    As the holiday season concludes, it is usually a time when we look back and re-evaluate our priorities. Typically over the holidays, we remember family members and friends, and spend time with them. But come Jan. 2, or shortly afterward, those feelings

    By Joshua LockhartJanuary 18, 2013

  • Sounding the alarm about violence against women

    After the early December suspected murder-suicide allegedly involving NFL linebacker Jovan Belcher, there has been an inordinate amount of attention given by the media to the topic of violence against women and suicide. While the latter has had avid

    By Joshua LockhartDecember 14, 2012

  • Creating a safe haven and secure base

    It's been almost two years since Brene Brown delivered her YouTube sensation TED talk about being vulnerable. She related how for humans, our core need and desire is security, and to do that, we have to be open and vulnerable with one another. Back in

    By Joshua LockhartNovember 23, 2012

  • Looking back at past family habits

    A family therapist, Murray Bowen, believes you can understand a family and a person within the family unit when you investigate and analyze their past three generations. Even though everything is not biologically inherited, nor is everything a learned

    By Joshua LockhartNovember 9, 2012

  • Adding relevancy and rewards to goal setting

    If you have ever attended a workshop on goal setting, guaranteed the workshop covered the aspect of SMART goals. SMART goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-specific. The specific part needs to be just that, specific, such as

    By Joshua LockhartOctober 26, 2012

  • Pursuing what matters most in life; Being in the moment with those around you

    It has begun to strike my heart that life is fragile, that this daily routine of striving to make a living and being with family can be gone, oh so quickly. A year ago, my family relocated to a new city. We were in the process of transferring records and

    By Josh LockhartSeptember 18, 2012

  • Go ahead, Dad; it's time to pitch in

    The first day of school is coming up, if it already hasn't. Summer is drawing to an end. This usually means an end to the frequent play days, late family movie nights and other fun activities. Typically these are dad-led or dad-highly-involved activities.

    By Joshua LockhartSeptember 6, 2012

  • Substance use in adolescence

    I recently had the chance to chat with and listen to a seminar delivered by Dean Nicholson around substance use and sexual abuse. Nicholson is the administrator of East Kootenay Addiction Services in Cranbrook, B.C. He recently conducted award-winning

    By Josh LockhartJune 14, 2012

  • Establishing trust with your infant

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    By Joshua LockheartMay 7, 2012

  • Eliminating the poor-bashing around us

    It was about five years ago that the CBC reported 40 per cent of the world's wealth was owned by one per cent of the world's population. There has been an ever increasing gap between the wealthy, and the common-day worker, as the occupy movement overtly

    By Joshua LockhartMarch 28, 2012

  • Does spanking work?

    Does spanking your child work? Or does it not work? Is it an effective tool for disciplining your child and teaching them to be obedient? According to a University of Manitoba Professor, Joan Durrant, the answer to the question is: spanking does not work.

    By Joshua LockhartFebruary 24, 2012

  • De-Twilight your relationship

    It is that time of year again, Twilight! The Twilight fans and moms are currently getting their Edward or Jacob fix at the local movie theatre. I may have once upon a time recommended the Twilight series as wholesome material, and as to how a man should

    By Josh LockhartDecember 30, 2011

  • Finding the courage within

    I recently had a group discussion around the word courage, and what it means to be courageous. However, I sometimes think we look to the extremes and too far into history to be able to recognize courageous behaviour and actions in our own lives. When

    By Josh LockhartDecember 23, 2011

  • How birth order can influence childhood development

    Have you ever wondered if the order you were born in impacted your development? Do you think the birth order of your children impacts them? What do you think would have happened if you were the oldest or youngest in your family instead of in your current

    By Josh LockhartOctober 28, 2011

  • What if all that's left is what you are grateful for?

    With the season of Thanksgiving upon us, it is a wonderful time to reflect on the many reasons we should be grateful. Sometimes I think we don't take seriously all of the things we can and should be grateful for. We state that we are "grateful" as if we

    By Josh LockhartOctober 7, 2011

  • Dealing with a peanut allergy

    Finding out that your child has a severe peanut allergy can be a very stressful concern. You find yourself worrying about what kids are bringing to school in their lunches, what you are ordering at a restaurant or what your neighbour may be offering for

    By Josh LockhartSeptember 15, 2011

  • Where are the fathers in times of need?

    Ever since the result of the Casey Anthony case, there seems to be a flash flood of mothers making the news because of the harm they have caused their children, as if the media is trying to find a new love affair. For example, there was the woman who

    By Josh LockhartAugust 4, 2011

  • Finding toys that our kids will play with

    I sat down recently and watched the documentary Babies with my wife for an at home date night. A mistake in selection on my wife's part, because I sat down to critique the movie. Now let me first say that documentaries usually contain bias, inaccurate

    By Josh LockhartJuly 26, 2011

  • Learning to recognize others in our lives

    Today, let's do a little exercise. Don't worry, not a physical one. I want you to use your imagination. Let's pretend you are the driver of a car. You can have three other people in your vehicle. I want you to choose three names. They can be friends,

    By Josh LockhartJuly 20, 2011

  • Father's Day gift giving ideas

    I usually don't write about gift giving ideas for Mother's Day, because most people are aware of how to make this day work, and know what to give for gifts. However, when it comes to Father's Day, there is mass confusion, and a distortion in the media

    By Josh LockhartJune 15, 2011

  • Finding toys that our kids will play with

    I sat down recently and watched the documentary "Babies" with my wife for an at home date night. A mistake in selection for my wife, because I sat down to critique the movie. Now let me first say that documentaries usually contain bias, inaccurate

    By Josh LockhartJune 11, 2011

  • Learn to give not take in your marriage

    I recently attended a wedding. It was a beautiful ceremony, filled with loving family and friends. I usually just enjoy going to weddings, but this time I analyzed the words during the ceremony. I couldn't help but wonder why this phrase was used "do you

    By Josh LockhartJune 8, 2011

  • Curbing the downward trend in children's academics

    A national study was released in Canada about 15-year-olds and their academic achievement. It used results from the national tests in math, reading, and science. The results of 2009 were paired up against results from the previous national test in that

    By Josh LockhartMay 20, 2011

  • Protecting your marriage while On Facebook

    American lawyers have found that Facebook has been related to 20 per cent of divorces. That's one in five. Now, I don't want to add to the hype conclusion that Facebook is evil and is the cause of the divorce; Facebook is more of a media that connected

    By Josh LockhartMay 11, 2011

  • Balancing quality and quantity time with your child

    Working from home is becoming a popular thing to do. The reason often cited for working from home is so that one can create their own work hours, and so that they are home with the family. While that is a great motivator, the goal of developing a better

    By Josh LockhartApril 17, 2011

  • Explanations for alcohol and drug experimentation

    Why do you think teenagers start doing drugs? Or drinking? Or other self-harming behaviors? I agree (with you), some do engage in it just for experimentation, or for thrill seeking. However, there are those who do it to ease troubles, numb pains, and to

    By Josh LockhartApril 1, 2011

  • Remember to have daddy-daughter dates

    Spending time with your daughter enhances your relationship with her. As I mentioned in a previous post, it is not just about quality time, it is about quantity time. To make your daughter feel loved, and wanted, you need to spend time together. I,

    By Josh LockhartMarch 15, 2011

  • Self Esteem more important than sex

    New research shows youth like getting a self-esteem boost more than they do sex, money or food. For example, they would prefer getting a good mark on an exam, or getting a compliment from someone. Unfortunately there have been some people, including the

    By Josh LockhartJanuary 25, 2011

  • Continue getting to know your spouse

    How well do you know your spouse? If they were standing in line this past month to return an item you purchased for them during the holidays, that might be a sign you may not know them as well as you think. A recent study found we know our spouse best at

    By Josh LockhartJanuary 20, 2011

  • Making goals, not wishes for The New Year

    A New Year's tradition with my family is going out for breakfast on New Year's Day. We went to a restaurant. While we were there we ran into some of my wife's clients. They joked with us about how they were going to start their diets after breakfast.

    By Josh LockhartJanuary 7, 2011

  • Understanding why your child may be impatient

    Have you ever asked your child to wait? Especially for something exciting, like their birthday, a visit from friends or family, or an activity. What is their usual reaction when you ask them to wait? Probably negatively. Have you ever wondered why this

    By Josh LockhartDecember 31, 2010

  • Parents, ask your kids for a wish list

    It's that time of year again! Santa is making a list, and checking it twice! But how about you parents, do you have a Christmas list? Do you know what your children want for Christmas? You might be able to save yourself some time and money by asking your

    By Josh LockhartDecember 8, 2010

  • Keeping children safe from pornography

    Pornography Warning Label: "Contents highly addictive. Extremely corrosive to the soul materials enclosed. Be prepared to have your mind twisted, your views of life ravaged, and your spirit shrunk. Be prepared that after an initial rush, you will

    By Josh LockhartNovember 24, 2010

  • We are all part of the solution

    Statistics Canada released a study early last month that highlighted the strength of the feminist movement. In 2006, for every 100 women with a university education there were 84 men with the same level of education. Compared to 1981, when there was 157

    By Josh LockhartOctober 18, 2010

  • For health's sake marry someone your age

    It has been shown study after study, that married couples live longer than their unmarried counterparts. However, a recent study shows you may want to consider another factor before getting married, your age difference. The recent Danish study was done

    By Josh LockhartOctober 12, 2010

  • Locking Hearts Together - Choose supportive friends and have a lasting marriage

    Does it seem like everyone around you is separating or divorcing? Is your sibling going through a divorce? How about a close friend or co-worker? If that's the case, you may want to put some social distance between them and you. According to recent

    By Josh LockhartSeptember 24, 2010

  • LOCKING HEARTS WITH HEARTS - Internet safety with your children

    I recently watched an Internet safety video on NSTeens. I noticed when the teens were asked if their parents knew what they were doing online, they responded with: "My mom does." I thought: "Where is dad? Isn't dad involved? If other families are like

    By Josh LockhartSeptember 22, 2010

  • Getting out of and avoiding debt

    Did you know the average Canadian has five credit cards? This includes the traditional credit cards and also cards like HBC, Best Buy, Citi Financial and so on. How many do you have? Credit cards have helped contribute to the 'now' environment of our

    By Josh LockhartSeptember 1, 2010

  • Your child learns how to be treated by watching you

    As your children shift into the school age and start interacting with children of the opposite gender, they will implement what they have learned at home about male-to-female relationships. Your children have been paying close attention to how you treat

    By Josh LockhartJuly 28, 2010

  • Your child learns how to be treated by watching you

    As your children shift into the school age and start interacting with children of the opposite gender, they will implement what they have learned at home about male-to-female relationships. Your children have been paying close attention to how you treat

    By Josh LockhartJune 22, 2010