Stepping out of one's comfort zone and doing "just one thing" that doesn't feel easy to do is a sure fire way to build courage.
Ever since I read an article on ways to build courage, I believe I have become a little bit addicted to pushing myself beyond what is comfortable and safe.
I used to break into a cold sweat before I dialed the phone. "Dialing out" was simply something I didn't do unless I had a defined purpose for my call. Calling someone just to chat was far out of my comfort zone as the words "who would want to talk to me?" rang through my mind. Initiating a visit or get together was simply too scary. "Who would want to get together with me?" I assumed everyone was busy leading their active and interesting lives and "Who would want to be interrupted by me?"
It took years for the tide to turn. There were many times when I would tell someone I had been thinking of them at a certain time. Then they proceeded to tell me it would have been so good to hear from me right then or they had been feeling the same way as I had been at the time. It happened often. I realized a person really should listen to those instincts and make that call.
I finally started acting on those instincts. It has served me well. I cannot believe the success I have had whenever I have had the strong feeling to call or email someone. I have had some marvelous getaways, visits and gatherings that simply wouldn't have happened if I hadn't reached out and said "What do you think about ___?"
One day, a strong urge hit me again. The next morning I picked up the phone and started calling. I phoned my cousins who lived in the city and suggested we have a cousin get together some Sunday afternoon. Just a casual come and go or come and stay gathering. I reached three people and three out of three of them were in total agreement with me. We were all interested in getting to know each other a little better and simply enjoy spending time with family.
We moved here 27 years ago. At that time, I didn't really want cousins to feel obligated to like me or be my friend just because we were related. But after seeing everyone briefly at a family gathering one weekend and having a short visit with some of them, I realized something. I would love to be their friend. It took over 20 years, but I finally had the courage to reach out. After 20 years, I felt worthy of my own family. After over 20 years, I am courageous enough to pick up the phone and say "Hi, would you like to get together some time?" And it is working for me.
I was euphoric. I felt courageous!
Doing just one thing that pushes you out of your comfort zone does amazing things. Not only for you, but for the people you touch in the process.
Try something new and uncomfortable every now and again. I’ll bet you will be glad you did.
